Setting personal goals
Since there are a lot of things that need to be done, it can be hard to know which ones are the most important. You have to think about what is the most important thing for you right now, and then do that first.
It may seem silly, but setting a goal – even for something like probate – can allow you to disregard distractions, give you better focus and concentration, increased confidence, and can help relieve anxiety.
A goal can also be considered a vision or mission for the end result. Some examples of clear, overarching goals might be…
- Maintaining healthy relationships with your loved ones throughout the process
- Honoring the legacy left behind by the deceased
- Making the most use out of the estate and maximizing profit margin
- Prioritizing your own grief and healing process
- Keeping the probate process as short and manageable as possible
These are just a few examples – your goal could be anything that is important to you.
Now that you know preparing your mind might just be the most important thing that you can do for yourself and your family, here are some ways to create mental clarity, protect your thoughts, and keep the walls of your fortress up through the entire process:
Understand that decisions don’t always come easily.
Oftentimes, we are faced with more than one choice and aren’t sure which path to take. Sometimes it can be difficult because you have no idea what the consequences will be or how these decisions will affect your future. At this point, it’s important not to get too bogged down by all of the details, but to focus on the end goal.
Remember, you can always change your mind down the road if needed. The important thing is that you make a decision and take some form of action – even if it’s later revised. Just having a plan gives you a sense of control during chaotic times.
Keep your thoughts & feelings in check.
Understandably, the grieving process can be overwhelming and you may find yourself lost in your thoughts at times. Realize that this is a time of high emotion, and it may be difficult to make decisions at all.
It can be helpful to talk to someone about how you’re feeling and what you’re thinking. This will help keep your thoughts and feelings in check, organized, and manageable.
Take some time for yourself every day.
This may seem like an impossible task with everything that is going on, but it is very important. Even if it’s just for a few minutes, take some time to relax and de-stress. This can be done through activities like yoga, meditation, or even reading.
Put your feelings into words.
This is another way of keeping your thoughts and feelings in check. Sometimes it can be difficult to put into words what you’re feeling, but writing things down can be very therapeutic and cathartic.
Not only does it help you organize your thoughts on paper, but it also helps keep them organized in your mind. Try to write at least once a day – even if it’s just a few sentences.
Learn to control your breathing.
In moments of high stress, our breathing can become shallow and rapid. This can not only increase our anxiety but also make it difficult to think clearly.
Try to take a few deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. This will help you calm down and focus.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help – enlisting the help of professionals and advisors can be a huge relief!
It’s normal to feel out of control during this time, but there are many people who want nothing more than to see you succeed in whatever you set out for. They will offer their support every step of the way, whether that means emotional or logistical support.
Just remember, you don’t have to do this alone!
Getting probate help should be easy
Going through probate here in Fayette County, GA can be tough, and you shouldn’t have to do it alone. There are resources available to help you make purposeful decisions and keep you and your family from being taken advantage of in your unique situation. Click here to schedule a worry-free conversation and get all of your questions answered.